Permission to Pause

As someone known to run at a pretty high-octane, I admittedly have a hard time slowing down and choosing to relax.

Sound familiar?

In such a busy season of transition and change, making time to hit the brakes and coast doesn’t feel natural or comfortable, but it’s vital in order to maintain and sustain energy and health.

In a recent Leading Insights™ post, I shared more the science of Energy Management and how it helps us balance rest and renewal with dynamic activity (check out the series here!)

Now let’s take this a level deeper.


Imagine what it would be like to give yourself permission to PAUSE. To rest. To simply be where you are without the need for more (or less).

Now you may be thinking, “Yeah that sounds great, Leslie, but I have a 60 hpw job, kids who need help with homework and rides to soccer practice, meals to cook, a house to clean, laundry to do…”

The average busy adult can’t even begin to fathom when and how to hit pause. It just isn’t realistic.

Or is this just what we’ve convinced ourselves to believe to reinforce the cycle of busyness in our lives?

Permission to Pause

The Currency of Busyness

“When busyness is the measure of time, no matter how much time exists it is never enough.” ~Diana Hunt

What if your success wasn’t measured by how busy you are, but rather by how fulfilled you feel? Tweet This


This is a guiding principle of my philosophy of Wholehearted Leadership™ and helps us refocus on the bigger picture, rather than getting stuck in the energy of doing, completing, achieving, striving, and proving.

In a recent Experience Life article on “The Upside of Downtime,” scientists found that chronic busyness actually exhausts our nervous system and kills our ability to be productive and creative. Whereas author, Heather Rogers, shared that “Idleness stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, bringing a host of healthful outcomes.”

Even the most demanding jobs give you mandatory vacation time, but how many of us take it regularly? From my experience working at two major universities for the better part of a decade before launching Lead With Intention™, choosing to take vacation time isn’t encouraged or supported because of pressing deadlines and workplace demands – many of which we put on ourselves or gladly accept to make it up the career ladder, only to become even busier. The same is true of many corporate, government, and educational roles.

imagesAnd for my fellow entrepreneurs and Domestic Engineers (i.e. Stay at Home Parents), creating some type of vacation time and sick leave doesn’t generally rank highly compared to other pressing tasks and obligations as we run our businesses and care for our families. Hitting pause is something we have to design into our lifestyles so we don’t burn out or start resenting the work and people we love.

Listen to Your Life

No matter what career you have or roles you’re playing, consider the words of well-known life coach, Martha Beck:

“When you know it’s time for action, act. When you feel it’s time to rest, rest. Not resting is as harmful as not acting.” ~Martha Beck

You know when you need to make things happen.

You also know when you need rest.

Listen to both.

Give yourself permission to pause and notice the difference.

You’re welcome. (You can thank me later…pause and rest first please)

Want to see how I’m hitting pause this week? Take a vicarious vacation and check out my photos from Cancun on Instagram and Facebook.

Create a great day,

Web signature

LWI Logo Transparent

Leslie Bosserman, M.Ed., CPCC

Leadership Coach & Culture Consultant
Call: 310.409.9240

Subscribe here to stay connected! 


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s