Permission to Pause

As someone known to run at a pretty high-octane, I admittedly have a hard time slowing down and choosing to relax.

Sound familiar?

In such a busy season of transition and change, making time to hit the brakes and coast doesn’t feel natural or comfortable, but it’s vital in order to maintain and sustain energy and health.

In a recent Leading Insights™ post, I shared more the science of Energy Management and how it helps us balance rest and renewal with dynamic activity (check out the series here!)

Now let’s take this a level deeper.

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Imagine what it would be like to give yourself permission to PAUSE. To rest. To simply be where you are without the need for more (or less).

Now you may be thinking, “Yeah that sounds great, Leslie, but I have a 60 hpw job, kids who need help with homework and rides to soccer practice, meals to cook, a house to clean, laundry to do…”

The average busy adult can’t even begin to fathom when and how to hit pause. It just isn’t realistic.

Or is this just what we’ve convinced ourselves to believe to reinforce the cycle of busyness in our lives?

Permission to Pause

The Currency of Busyness

“When busyness is the measure of time, no matter how much time exists it is never enough.” ~Diana Hunt

What if your success wasn’t measured by how busy you are, but rather by how fulfilled you feel? Tweet This

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This is a guiding principle of my philosophy of Wholehearted Leadership™ and helps us refocus on the bigger picture, rather than getting stuck in the energy of doing, completing, achieving, striving, and proving.

In a recent Experience Life article on “The Upside of Downtime,” scientists found that chronic busyness actually exhausts our nervous system and kills our ability to be productive and creative. Whereas author, Heather Rogers, shared that “Idleness stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, bringing a host of healthful outcomes.”

Even the most demanding jobs give you mandatory vacation time, but how many of us take it regularly? From my experience working at two major universities for the better part of a decade before launching Lead With Intention™, choosing to take vacation time isn’t encouraged or supported because of pressing deadlines and workplace demands – many of which we put on ourselves or gladly accept to make it up the career ladder, only to become even busier. The same is true of many corporate, government, and educational roles.

imagesAnd for my fellow entrepreneurs and Domestic Engineers (i.e. Stay at Home Parents), creating some type of vacation time and sick leave doesn’t generally rank highly compared to other pressing tasks and obligations as we run our businesses and care for our families. Hitting pause is something we have to design into our lifestyles so we don’t burn out or start resenting the work and people we love.

Listen to Your Life

No matter what career you have or roles you’re playing, consider the words of well-known life coach, Martha Beck:

“When you know it’s time for action, act. When you feel it’s time to rest, rest. Not resting is as harmful as not acting.” ~Martha Beck

You know when you need to make things happen.

You also know when you need rest.

Listen to both.

Give yourself permission to pause and notice the difference.

You’re welcome. (You can thank me later…pause and rest first please)

Want to see how I’m hitting pause this week? Take a vicarious vacation and check out my photos from Cancun on Instagram and Facebook.

Create a great day,

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Leslie Bosserman, M.Ed., CPCC

Leadership Coach & Culture Consultant
Call: 310.409.9240

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Spring Cleaning for your Body, Mind, and Business

IMG_8921The spring season is a time of growth and change. Just look around you and notice that flowers are budding, trees are becoming leafy green, and birds are chirping – nature is in full-bloom as we embrace even more transition!

Spring-CleaningWhile we welcome some warmer weather, we may also be feeling the desire to make some changes in our own lives. The age-old tradition of spring-cleaning is one that can be applied beyond cleaning out our closets at home. So let’s dive deeper into strategies for Spring Cleaning for your Body, Mind, and Business!

Your Lifestyle Wheel

With a quarter of 2015 behind us, it’s time to check in with how you’re doing on your personal and professional intentions and refocus on what’s really important! One of my favorite exercises to do wit clients (and myself) is creating a Lifestyle Wheel.

I’ll walk you through a simplified version of it here so you can take a snapshot of where you are now and what’s next for your growth!

STEP ONE: In each of the categories below, write down a few words and phrases to describe what is going on for you now. Get really clear on how you feel about this area of your life, then assign it a number between 1 (low) to 10 (high) based on your current level of satisfaction.

  • Health and Wellbeing
  • Personal Relationships
  • Fun and Recreation
  • Career Development

STEP TWO: Now plot each of the points on the graph below in the corresponding area and connect the dots to form your Lifestyle Wheel* (click here for your own downloadable version).

My Lifestyle Wheel*The Lifestyle Wheel is an adapted version of The Wheel of Life Exercise from The Coaches Training Institute

Notice the pattern it forms based on the differences in each area of your life. If this circle were actually a wheel of your car of bike, how smooth or bumpy would your ride be?

STEP THREE: Take a moment to consider what you would like to change in each area of your life. What would increase your satisfaction level, even by one or two numbers? What would it take to get to this new level? Make a list of 3-5 specific things you are going to STOP doing and another 3-5 actions that you are going to START doing to boost your satisfaction and the desired outcomes for each.

I will STOP doing…

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And this will allow me to…

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I will START doing…

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And this will allow me to…

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Put a date on your Lifestyle Wheel and save it so you can track your progress in the next 3-6 months. This is a great way to check in and hold yourself accountable to your goals for personal and professional growth. This is also connected to the concept of increasing your MARGIN to enhance your emotional endurance and ways to create your “To Be” List if you want to take it a few steps further!

Join Me On Wednesday

600_435168946Want to learn what to do next? I’ll be leading an interactive workshop in downtown Sacramento tomorrow from 12:00-1:00pm that will guide you through this Lifestyle Wheel activity to help you get CLEAR on what you need more (and less) of! RSVP today to join the group!

Create a great day,

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Leslie Bosserman, M.Ed., CPCC

Leadership Coach & Culture Consultant
Call: 310.409.9240

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