“Enough” is a Verb

As we approach the end of the year and our hours of sunlight and calendar days continue to shrink, I’ve been observing a phenomenon I’ve aptly named the “gotta-get-it-all-done-now” syndrome (or G2iADN for short). The recurring symptoms include:

  • imgresIncreased heart rate and stress level
  • Reduced focus and mindfulness
  • Amplified feelings of inadequacy and frustration
  • Decreased attention to needs of others
  • And LOTS of burnout

Sound familiar?

Hopefully not, but if you’re even on the borderline of approaching G2iADN Syndrome, you’re in luck because there is an easy three-step antidote! (And it’s guaranteed not to break the bank because it’s FREE).

STEP ONE: Pause. Breathe Deeply. Repeat Often.

STEP TWO: Set daily intentions for how you want to live and who you want to be. Stick to them. Remind yourself of your intentions and hold yourself accountable.

STEP THREE: Accept that you already are – and have done – ENOUGH. Right here. Right now.

Now, I realize that STEP ONE and STEP TWO are fairly doable. They remind us to slow down, become more present, and intentionally craft how we want to live each day.

But STEP THREE? “I’ve done ENOUGH?” “I have ENOUGH?” “I am ENOUGH?” Really, Leslie??

Okay, I’ll admit that STEP THREE is pretty radical, even for me! Because, after all, isn’t there always more to do, something to accomplish, and goals to achieve?

What is this idea behind ENOUGH?

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The very concept of ENOUGH lands differently for each person. To some, it might mean settling for less than they want in a type of overwhelmed surrender, while to others it is the point they reach when they have done everything they can and still aren’t happy with the results. Both sound pretty bleak if you ask me!

So I’d like to offer a third perspective and invite you to make this concept of ENOUGH your new secret weapon.

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With this new understanding, you will find ENOUGH as a helpful support structure that will not only get you through the end-of-the-year rush, but also allow you to find more sustaining peace, joy, and fulfillment.

Now THAT sounds good right?!

So without further ado, here it is…

jpeg-11Make ENOUGH a Verb: An active process of finding a dynamic balance between what you could be doing and what you have already accomplished.

Consider what a life of ENOUGH would look, feel, taste, smell, and be like?

Now I’m talking about a life that is full of satisfaction, contentment, and fulfillment – the life you truly crave to live!

We all desire to live a life of deep abundance and nourishment where our core values and needs are met. Yet in the midst of our busy, complex lives, we often settle for empty substitutes to our authentic needs. This act of complacency and surrender to something less-than enough produces a relentless striving for more – to do more, be more, and have more.  But to what end?

“It has become so much more difficult to make peace with any job well done or any day well spent,” author Wayne Muller says, largely because we’re always thinking about what is left undone and how it could have been better. In his book A Life of Being, Having, and Doing Enough, Muller encourages us to embrace the forgotten refuge of living a life of enough for today without having expectations or attachment to anything else.

Muller continues, “In a world gone mad with speed, potential, and choice, we continually overestimate what we can do, build, fix, care for, or make happen in one day. We overload our expectations on ourselves and others, inflate our real and imaginary responsibilities, until our fierce and tender human hearts finally collapse under the relentless pressure of impossible demands.”

imagesSo why do we keep running on the hamster’s wheel trying to find our “enough point” until we inevitably collapse from the exhaustion of it all? Trying to quantify and capture what truly is ENOUGH assumes that one can predict or plan for something that is always changing based on context.

Rather than viewing enough as something that we must just work harder to attain, we can learn that ENOUGH is a verb. Muller agrees and supports that “[enough] is not a static state, something achieved or accomplished. It is relational, by nature unpredictable, punctuated by wonder, surprise, and awe.”

So how do we live lives filled with peace and contentment instead of this incessant striving?

Ask yourself:

  • What is enough for today?
  • How will I know when I am or have enough?
  • What if I already have what I’m seeking?
  • What am I really striving to accomplish?
  • What have I traded my dreams for lately?
  • What am I settling for…and why?

When you begin living this concept of ENOUGH as a verb, your life results in a deep, abiding sufficiency, rather than a sense of scarcity or defeat.

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It is time to reclaim a life of deep and lasting sufficiency! We must be present and connected to our deepest desires and living out our core values to know what is ENOUGH in each moment – nothing more and nothing less. Living a life of being, having, and doing enough begins with accepting where you are, while acknowledging what you have accomplished and still truly desire.

How can you live ENOUGH today?

Reference:

Muller, W. (2010). A life of being, having, and doing enough. New York: Harmony Books.

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Leslie Bosserman, M.Ed., CPCC

Fulfillment Specialist & Leadership Coach
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